Freddy… need your advice on this one.
So, we talked about our situation a bit more this morning. We talked about a lot of things – good things, bad things, the way we wish it would be, and reasons why we love the way it is now. The main point that came out of the discussion, the one thing that could single-handedly end this relationship, is an issue I’m not sure how to fix. Maybe it can’t be fixed. But I need to at least try.
He doesn’t feel a physical connection between us. This is something I don’t think I’ve ever dealt with. Was I surprised to hear him say it? Not at all. I’ve felt it the past couple months, and have brought it up to him a few times. We haven’t had sex in a week and a half. I’ve felt like he doesn’t even want to touch me.
“How often do we just spontaneously make out? How often do we have sex?” He asked me this morning. “I just don’t feel it.”
I am still very physically attracted to him. But he has been shutting me down. I really don't want to lose him...
So now, we are still moving forward with this relationship and trying to work through the problems. But this is one problem I just don’t know how to solve. How do I get the “spice” back in this relationship? How do I make him want me again? Or maybe he was right when he said “some people just don’t have a connection.”
Boston, if he is not sexually attracted to you, the problem isn't you, the way you look, the way you act in sexy situations or the things that you try to do for him to get him worked up. The problem lies with him.
ReplyDeleteHe's not attracted to you? He doesn't want to bang out with you? Something is clearly wrong with him. I'm pretty sure that there is a list from Boston to Chicago full of fellas, and maybe a few gals, who would stand in pouring rain, sub zero temperatures or the fiery heat of hell just for a chance to know you and maybe, just maybe, actually have a good, old fashioned bang out session with ya, kid.
If he feels no connection with you, there is no point of wasting your time to try and find a way for him to feel one. Cut your loses. Ditch the bitch, but keep your distance from the ex (from your last couple of posts).
I have just one more thing to add and I will let you deal with your "might be harboring same sex tendencies" boy for the moment:
"Please come to Chicago for the Spring time."
[just checking to see if you remembered when I re-worded that song for ya.]