Two Wednesdays from now, at 7:35 pm, let's meet at the Main StreetBar & Grille.

There are two types of people in the world when it comes to planning.

Some people feel the need to plan everything far in advance. These are the people who carry around a pocket calendar and obsessively fill its pages with exact times for meetings, dinner plans, due dates. These are the people who actually use the calendar app on their cell phone. These people get a nervous feeling in their stomach if plans are not set in stone. These people don't do well when someone tells them, "let's meet one night next week." It is their natural inclination to respond with, "wait, which night next week? What time? Where are we meeting?" They need to be able to write something down in their planner. They need to be able to plan the rest of their week. I am one of these people.

The other type of person hates to commit to specific plans. What if something else comes up? What if, when next Tuesday rolls around, they no longer feel like doing whatever it is they said they'd do? These people like to just "go with the flow." They'll figure it out at the last hour. My ex-boyfriend is this type of person.

So here we are, almost five months since the breakup, trying to remain friends, keep in touch, enjoy each other's company without banging out. Last Thursday he gave me the dreaded "let's do something next week." Now, we're no longer together and I know he hates making solid plans (and even if he did set specific plans, he'd probably end up changing them the day of)... so I didn't push it. I accepted the uncertainty of our meeting.

I decided to give him until Wednesday. If he hadn't called me by Wednesday at noon (his typical waking time), I'd call him to make last minute plans for that night or for Thursday night.

(Do you see how I even need to plan my schedule for setting last minute plans?)

But then today I realized that Lost is on Wednesday night, and I would prefer not to miss it, even for the love of my life (who doesn't want a girlfriend anymore). And so I sent him a text message asking if he'd like to go out tonight. That was an hour and a half ago.

Of course he hasn't responded. And it has nothing to do with the fact that we're not dating anymore. We are on good terms and I know he sincerely wants to hang out with me. What this has to do with is his inability to commit to something that is more than an hour away. Five hours ahead of time is WAYYYYY too far in advance for him to make solid plans. What if he says yes now and something else comes up in a couple hours? Or what if 7:00 rolls around and he's just too tired to go out?

So instead of responding with a "yes," "no," or "maybe," he will wait until 5:00 or 5:30 to make up his mind and get back to me.. I will sit here, with that nervous feeling in my stomach, just WONDERING.

It drives me absolutely NUTS to not know what I'll be doing in three hours when I get out of work. Nuts.

The struggle between these two types of people is probably something that will never be solved; people are very set in their ways and seldom change. But if you are the second type, F you! You raise my anxiety level even more than it is normally.

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